I think the biggest change I have seen in the last month with Ve is that she seems more settled, relaxed, and it seems like she knows that she "BELONGS" here. With this new sense of belonging there has been a few crying lags for a good hour or more, several times within the last week. Deep, sorrowful crying that only subsides with me sitting along side her and rubbing her back as she relaxes enough to talk. Once she is finished crying we talk about what made her so sad to cry and it usually is a VERY insignificant issue. So I feel she has now, finally, entered into a grieving for her former life in Haiti phase. I don't like to see her hurt so, but I am glad she is finally grieving. I feel this will take us to the next step in bonding for the family, home and her new life. Healing only comes with good healthy grieving and letting go of the past and embracing the future. She feels comfortable enough to do this now.
Wednesday, May 13, 2009
5 months home
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And grief has it's own timetable. I'm glad you are there for her, she will come out the better for it in the long run.
She sounds like she's doing just great, and doing just what she is supposed to do.
Does she still enjoy looking at photos of her friends at the creche, or not so much?
steph
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