43 days home

and already functioning as typical sisters. I think their relationship is the truly marvelous miracle in Ve's homecoming. Don't get me wrong, I love Ve's homecoming as well and I am loving being able to communicate more and more daily with her. As I mentioned before, it is like she has always been here, simply because we are functioning so flawlessly (Of course now that I said that, I may have jinxed us. LOL)


Before Tuks was even home, I knew I'd be adopting siblings for her, and especially at least one sister. I have a sister, and 3 brothers, and even though we do not always get along seamlessly on a daily basis, I am ever so grateful for them. So with Ve's homecoming, I of course was a little nervous as to how she and Tuks would function as sisters. I had read all the info I could find on adopting out of birth order, and believe there are many scare stories out there, and yet here I was doing just that, not only once, but twice.


The first few days of Ve being home, I could tell why all the warnings. Ve wanted to be "the baby", Tuks was the baby but she was acting like the "Mom, or big sister". etc., I would not be over exaggerating by saying that none of us knew exactly how to operate in our given roles, because it kind of became all muddled. But, then I started just saying to the girls that "Tuks is the baby of the family, not the big sister or mama, Mama is the Mama, and Ve was the bigger sister" Eventually I think we all started to receive the message and things have started to fall in to place.

In addition, the way they play together has transformed into playing side by side, to playing with each other in pretend shopping, mama's to their babies, dress up, kitchen etc.,



They, of course, have their moments of not understanding each other's behavior, not sharing, or both wanting the exact same thing at the same time, even though seconds ago neither wanted it. Ve is taking on the big sister role better, Tuks is taking on the baby sister role better, and I of course am still learning all about what the Mama role involves. But it does change daily, so sometimes I get confused. LOL

I also prep both girls that when Mim comes home, she is and will be the big sister.